I love it when science discovers what we already intuitively know. Women are different than men! In this particular study, explained in an article by Ellen Michaud in Prevention Magazine and reprinted on Learning Place Online, it was found that women do not have the usual fight or flight response to stress. It’s not a surprise to me that they instead meet together to bond and communicate. (more…)
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Continuing with the subject from my last entry about women’s rights in the US and Iran…
There is a matriarchal society on a paradise island in the Arabian Sea off the Malabar Coast of southern India, called Lakshadweep. Women enjoy a lofty status on these islands. Property is passed from the mother to daughter and men can only be caretakers. Husbands are supposed to give a salary to their wives on a yearly basis, and if they fail to do that, the women can and do ask for divorces. I find it interesting that the islanders are Muslim, but the women are honored and in charge. Their manner of dress is simple and similar to the Muslims of Malabar coast.
I’d just be curious to visit a matriarchial society, even though it’s a very long and arduous journey to reach these 36 teeny islands off the coast of Kerala, India. The water is clear blue and the beaches sandy.
If you know of other matriarchial groups, send me a comment
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Obama signed the Fair Pay Bill on January 29. I don’t know why, but I’m always surprised when I hear about women’s rights still being an issue, especially in the United States. Of course, I personally feel lucky to have been born here because we have more rights and opportunities than in most other countries. However, I’m grateful for women like Lilly Ledbetter, who fought for her rights, that will benefit our daughters and granddaughters because Lilly actually won’t benefit from the Fair Pay Legislation. Her story is that she worked for Goodyear Tire for 19 years before she found out that she was getting paid less than her male co-workers who had similar experience and education in the same job. (more…)
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My main expertise is in helping individuals uncover and dissolve limiting beliefs so they can be happier. In addition, I’m always keeping my eyes open for other ways to enhance emotional well-being.
In the winter (and most of the Fall and early Spring) in Iowa, the skies are gray. Being of Mediterranean descent, I thrive on sunshine, so when my friend, Sheila, shared her research with me about taking higher doses of Vitamin D, I tried it. Those of us who live in the northern Hemisphere, north of a line running from New York City west across to upstate California, are not able to get 15 minutes of sun a day, so we are more than likely low in Vitamin D. In addition, the ability of skin to convert vitamin D to its active form decreases as we age. The kidneys, which help convert vitamin D to its active form, sometimes do not work as well when we age also. (more…)
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I just attended a Ladies Who Launch Event in Boulder at Common Threads with my daughter (@gracekboyle)whom I’m visiting this week. As a lone entrepreneur, I long for the opportunity to connect and network with other women in business and creative projects. I think it’s crucial. I do meet on the phone with a mastermind group of women from around the country, and I am so grateful for their support and inspiration.
The Ladies Who Launch group is so fantastic because you connect in person with a community of like-minded women who help give more exposure to their products or services, through marketing and distribution opportunities.
This group is about women helping women. At this event, there were four dynamic women who presented their expertise about marketing, branding and social media. (more…)
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Barbara and Helena have been dear friends of mine for over 30 years. In addition to sharing lots of laughter and adventures with them, I went to college with Barbara and traveled to Germany with Helena. I recently helped my daughter, who just graduated from college, move to Boulder. It so happens that Barbara and Helena live there, in addition to many other dear friends. So, I was thrilled to spend time with them once again. They are powerful women in tune with the force that surrounds us! And so is my daughter who took on a big challenge–followed her intuition and moved alone without a job to Colorado, and within a month is happily settled with a new job that she loves, and a beautiful rental house 2 blocks from 20 trailheads.
It wasn’t easy, but my daughter is a force to be reckoned with, and even though she’s short, she’s mighty. She proves the point Yoda made to Luke Skywalker in The Empire Strikes Back when he complained that ‘it was too big.’
Luke: I can’t. It’s too big.
Yoda: Size matters not. Look at me. Judge me by my size, do you? Hmm? Hmm. And well you should not. For my ally is the Force, and a powerful ally it is. Life creates it, makes it grow. Its energy surrounds us and binds us. Luminous beings are we, not this crude matter. You must feel the Force around you; between you, me, the tree, the rock, everywhere. Yes, even between the land and the ship.
Do you feel the force around you? It’s there! How do you feel it?
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As a woman who owns her own business, I am constantly in support of organizations and businesses for such a cause. One powerful organization is: The Women Business Owners Network (WBON), a Vermont-based association of over 320 women business owners. WBON is the largest non-profit women business owner membership organization in Northern New England. They work on bringing together business owners and organizations that support women in business while also creating a forum for women to connect, share and grow their business.
I recently found their new blog which helps to create opportunities for members to exchange information and resources through regional Chapter meetings, conferences, and tradeshows. I believe women thrive when we connect with each other, and provide each other with inspiration and the power to keep growing.
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Through coaching and teaching, I have compiled a list of common limiting beliefs that women have shared with me. I thought you might want to take a look. Check any statements that resonate with you. Are you willing to ask yourself a few questions to change your beliefs and change your life?
___1. I’m not enough (e.g., good, educated, thin, young, smart, rich enough).
___2. I need to make others happy so I won’t be rejected.
___3. I can’t be happy until he/she changes.
___4. I have to earn other people’s approval to feel good about myself.
___5. If I let people really get to know me, they won’t like me.
___6. I have to stay in the relationship because I can’t make it on my own.
___7. If I’m happy even when others are suffering, it means I don’t care.
___8. I can’t be happy until the relationship/career is different.
___9. If they really loved me, they would _________________.
___10. I need to do more and more to be worthy.
___11. I don’t know what I want.
___12. I shouldn’t put my needs before others’.
___13. I’ll never really change.
___14. I’m responsible for other people’s happiness, and they’re responsible for mine.
___15. I don’t deserve love, success, money, fame, etc.
___16. If I pursue my own interests, my relationships will suffer.
___17. I don’t have time to nurture myself.
___18. It’s too late for me to find happiness and success.
___19. If I speak my mind, I’ll be rejected.
___20. I should be farther along than I am.
___21. I’d better not be too happy, or I’ll just have farther to fall.
___22. Things will never work out for me.
___23. I shouldn’t have to ask my partner for what I want.
___24. I’m a bad/unlovable person.
___25. I need fear to motivate me and keep me in check.
___26. I’ll never make enough money.
___27. I’ll always have to struggle, while others have it easier.
___28. Whatever I’m doing, I should be doing something else.
___29. Health problems will always keep me from happiness and success.
___30. I can’t do it.
If any of these statements ring true for you, it may be time to take your destiny into your own hands by dissolving the beliefs that sabotage your success and happiness.
What is a belief? It is a perception of reality, or something you were told that you had no reason to doubt. How do you know that you have a self-defeating belief? If you are feeling some way you don’t like feeling, you are probably believing something that’s not true.
Choose one limiting belief and ask yourself these questions:
* Do I believe that?
* Why do I believe that?
* What seems true about that?
* What might concern me if that belief were gone? (What might happen that I would not like?)
These questions give you a powerful starter kit for creating happiness beyond belief. Freedom from your beliefs is life changing.
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