LenoraBoyle on November 16th, 2010

Question Your Limiting Beliefs

Limiting Belief Exercise:

Dissolving Limiting Beliefs Exercise using The Option Method.  The following questions are part of the series of questions used in The Option Method.

Step 1: Write down a negative judgment, or limiting belief that you know keeps you stuck or makes you unhappy. A belief is a perception of reality or a conclusion that you’ve come to based on past conditioning. Some examples are “I’m not good enough.” “I can’t do it.”
Write the following questions on paper. After you ask the question, notice your first thoughts, body sensations, images, then write your responses without editing.

Step 2: Ask the first question: Do you believe that? If you believe it sometimes, then it is still affecting every decision you make in your life.

Step 3: Why do you believe that? You have some reasons or proof that you’ve used in the past to build your case, trying to prove the belief to be factual. Explore it here.

Step 4: Do you know if it’s true? (Why might you believe something that you don’t know is true?)

Step 5: What might concern you if that belief were gone? This is a crucial question to answer. In other words, “what might happen that you would not like?” There is a concern about the belief being eliminated, otherwise it would not be there. It’s serving you in some way. Let this question sink into your heart and it will awaken you.

Simply questioning your limiting beliefs—and the reasons you may have been holding on to them—allows those limiting beliefs to start dissolving automatically. When you realize the limiting belief is no longer true, you feel freer, happier and more open to love.
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This is an exploration of limiting beliefs, not an exercise to choose a better belief. If another limiting belief is uncovered during this process, then begin with Step 1 again and question a new belief.  Just explore the limiting ones, and our perceptions will change. When our perceptions change, new possibilities open like fresh air and sunshine.

Ask these questions for any limiting belief that limits you or hurts you in some way.

The dissolution of limiting beliefs works because once you realize that the belief is no longer true, it starts to dissolve, along with the conflicting feelings attached to the belief.

In addition to unraveling limiting beliefs that we know we have, there are also unconscious limiting beliefs that can be uncovered with other Option Method questions. For more information, visit http://www.ChangeLimitingBeliefs.com.


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LenoraBoyle on July 26th, 2010

Let’s start our days out like four year old Jessica and stand on your sinks, in front of the mirror, and give ourselves a pep talk. We can all do a little self life coaching to lift us over the rough spots in our days.

Gotta love this kid!


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LenoraBoyle on September 9th, 2009


Many of you have asked about the personal life coaching and mentoring that I do, and why I named this blog The Happiness Zone. (In January 2010, it’s now called BeHappyLifeCoach.com) The main reason is because I believe that the glory of life on earth is to expand our possibilities. I like to discover and share possibilities that may help us to be happier. In these economic times, it becomes even more evident that our source of happiness and peace comes from within. So, to stay in the ‘happiness zone’ will give us great support and ease.

We’ve come to a time in our lives, in the United States and other developed countries, that what we depended upon or took for granted, is no longer stable, like the banking system. I guess the trust was only an illusion anyway. As people are losing their jobs, facing foreclosures, and increased prices, it’s crucial that we not be taken down by pessimism or doom and gloom. Therefore, keeping my blog alive with tips and inspiration for happiness is my way of creatinge more joy in the world.

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LenoraBoyle on June 11th, 2009

Every Thursday I post a quote or thought for all of us to ponder. Today’s quote is from humanitarian, Lynn Twist, pictured on the right with me in Fairfield, Iowa.
“When a tree falls in Brazil, there is less oxygen in Ohio.”

Lynn is the bestselling author of The Soul of Money and co-founder of the Pachamama Alliance. I had the privilege of taking a long walk with Lynn and my visiting friend and New York Times best selling author, Marci Shimoff, on the walking trails along the lake in my hometown of Fairfield, Iowa. Lynn was visiting our town because she was receiving the Mayor Malloy’s humanitarian award. I found Lynn to be the most genuine down-to-earth yet global thinker I’ve ever met.

Lynn has spent more than three decades working in positions of leadership with many global initiaves including: ending world hunger, protecting the woldks rainforests, empowering indigenous peoples, inproving health, economic, and political conditions for women and children, and advancing the scientific understanding of human consciousness.
She has had many teachers in her life. In addition to being trained by Mother Theresa, some of Lynn’s great teachers are the people she meets in third world countries. For instance, she traveled to Ethiopia during the 1984 famine that killed 1 million people. (more…)


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LenoraBoyle on June 4th, 2009


Every Thursday I post a quote or thought for all of us to ponder.

I am a life coach who asks questions to individuals who come to me with questions. Each of us has the answers within ourselves and we are our own best expert, but we don’t always realize it. Have you ever found yourself asking others for advice, and then you sift through it, and decide whether or not to act on their ‘brilliant’ advice? Often, it’s just our doubts and fears that block our clarity and creativity. Those doubts and fears can be questioned. (more…)


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LenoraBoyle on January 9th, 2009

Are you afraid to break out of your comfort zone and take a risk? Check out this link and rest assured that you don’t have to jump off a cliff or do wing suit base jumping in order to take a risk and expand  your comfort zone.  On the other hand, maybe doing something that’s out of the ordinary, feels like taking a leap to possible death.  I know that when my friend joined Toastmasters, he said he’d rather jump out of an airplane than speak in front of a group of people.
Most of us have comfort zones, and some of us are more willing than others to break out of those comfort zones.  We enjoy our security, and often lack self esteem to take a risk.  Our limiting beliefs prevent us from growing or moving forward.  But just take a step.  Martin Luther King has said, “Take the first step in faith.  You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” Would you feel more courageous if you had more knowledge about the first step? Then try three things:
1.)  Decide how you want to expand your boundaries.
2.)  Prepare and research to gain some necessary information, if that makes you feel better.
3.)  Find a friend, life coach or dream team mastermind group, who believes in you and will be your cheerleader when you fall down, or make it to the next step.
….. Then take the first step, and then the next!
Even with these  three points, in order to grow, and expand beyond our comfort zone, it’s very possible we will experience fear of the unknown and have to face the unknown.  If we have to know the experience and the outcome before we make a move, we will probably stay in our cozy spot. Growth comes from moving and taking a risk, then adjusting as we climb the staircase.
There is great value in reaching for the stars, but there is value in choosing to climb a step before climbing Mt. McKinley.
How do you take risks?  Can you share ideas with us by clicking on ‘comments’.

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